Why do we have such an aversion to fear?
Not that anyone wants to spend a lifetime in it, but why do we try to avoid it at all costs? Worse yet, why do we run immediately to someone else to find our solution?
Personally, I understand this way of thinking all too well. I’m a fear person; I gravitate to it like raindrops search for the ground. In fact, I would go so far to say it is where I am most comfortable. I mean, if I live in fear, can it possibly get any worse?
Thankfully, I also have a healthy dose of determination.
I’ve been away from the blog for awhile. About 6 months, actually. I was going through one of those periods in my life where I needed time to clear my brain of noise. I had a lot of ideas and they were getting mixed up and complicated and I couldn’t think clearly. Now, I know – fear was in the mix.
They were big ideas. They would take skill sets I wasn’t sure I possessed so I found myself having this battle in my mind: I could just coast along and care for my family and take it easy until I died or take a chance and maybe fail in the process.
Thankfully, I came out of the battle assured that I couldn’t take the easy way out. Sure, it is much easier to stand back and out of the way, but where would the disability community be today if we all opted out? Would there be the ADA or IDEA? Would we have inclusion? Would my daughter be part of society today if those first parents didn’t tell the doctors to get lost when they recommended placing their child in an institution?
I have learned over the last 6 months that I am not capable of being out of the mix, and this is why.
I truly feel that if we don’t get moving, we are going to get trapped. And when I say “we”, I mean the disability community. Resources continue to dwindle while needs explode and I don’t see how this equation will change given the boomers have just begun to hit retirement age.
I have made excuses in the past that moving forward is easier for some than others – as if they have some advantage I do not possess. But the truth is, it doesn’t matter who you are or what your background is – action takes courage and eventually you have to decide if you are going to stand on the sidelines and wait for something that is of poor value or marginal value at best, or be proactive and create your own success for you and your child. We have to believe that in the end, our community as innovative thinkers will save us – not someone else.
No more excuses. Take the energy you put into worrying and fear and act on the dream that is right in front of you.
And then please, please, please share with my readers so others can follow your lead and be inspired.
Good to be back! Missed you all.